Bisexual people have long been silenced within the world of gay politics. It is most definitely gay politics when bisexual people are made to feel they should be grateful whenever our identities are ever even mentioned and trans people are treated with overt contempt. This does not need to be the case. Bisexual people are thought to far outnumber gay people and so the next sexuality revolution should not be without us. Bisexual people have the numbers, but we need to use our voices to demand better. The old ‘nothing about us, without us’ has never been truer.
For far too long gay, white, cisgender people have had a monopoly on everything LGBT, from the parties, the media, the organisations and charities to the political lobbying. Society is now well versed in what gay cisgender people face but what about the rest of us?
The gay community has often made it quite clear that they are not spaces where bisexual people can feel safe. This is clear from messages which never address what bisexual people are facing, to the open hostilities so many LGB people display, such as remarking that bisexual people are traitors to the cause or cannot be trusted not to cheat.
When gay people shunned bisexual people from the community, when the movement was exclusively based on only same gender love, that was when they handed over power to bisexual politics without even realising it. They said very clearly that they were on the side of the binary and that their hope purely was that the binary did not oppress them- that it was okay if anybody else got caught up in the oppression just so long as it wasn’t them.
While bisexual people only ever wanted the free to be and carry out sexual and romantic lives without fear of prejudice, what happened was that bisexual people were made out to be the ‘real’ perverts and deviants. Not the gay folks who wanted to set up and marry someone of the same gender, but the bisexual people who just wanted to live without oppression.
This means that bisexual politics becomes by default the politics of liberty of sexuality, bodily autonomy and of love. Bisexual politics has become the home of those who wish the break such narrow binaries with relationships because gay people sided with the straight people against us. They merely wanted to get invited to straight spaces, it wasn’t about freedom.
All politics must be for people of colour, disabled people, intersex people, people in poverty and anybody else who dares exist beyond the narrow ideals which society imposes. It is vital for bisexual politics to be intersectional as the gay community gave us a gift in their own rush for respectability politics. They said very clearly that they were not for true liberation of the self. It is the absolute duty therefore of all bi politics and all bi activists to be intersectional. It is through bi politics and activism that we can help break the narrow binaries and artificial ideas imposed and imprinted upon people from birth.